Sunday, March 2, 2008

Opportunities Lost

“There is a tide in the affairs of men,
Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;
Omitted, all the voyage of their life
Is bound in shallows and in miseries.”
– William Shakespeare, “Julius Caesar”

This quote from William Shakespeare is an accurate assessment of life. A shorter version of this sentiment is “Strike while the iron is hot.” When you get the inspiration to do something, do it. In this installment of “The Babbling Brooksby,” I will try to show you why this is true.

About 25 years ago, I was asked to speak at a singles fireside in North Phoenix. They gave me several weeks’ notice, but when the day arrived I still had no idea what I would be talking about. I had prayed and prayed for guidance, but had received nothing. So I drove the many miles from Mesa to the church on Greenway Rd, without any clear idea what I would be saying to roughly 100 singles from all over the state. All of a sudden, while driving, I received an insight that came to me in complete form – I would talk about the principles of gardening (about which I knew nothing!) and relate them to personal and spiritual growth. Like I said, the insight came complete in an instant. I arrived, gave my talk, and prepared to leave. But many of the people there told me, “That was so insightful, you should write a book.” I started toying with the idea. Today I am still toying with the idea, but while I have written a forward and bits and pieces of all 10 chapters, the original insights are no longer available to me. I had a gift given to me that could have touched a lot of people, but I didn’t move with the tide when it was available.

Just about the time we moved to Pinetop-Lakeside, I had an idea for a hymn I wanted to write. It was about the atonement of Christ, and was called, “How is it Done?” inspired by Enos 7. I wrote several verses, and even had an idea of the basic tune and mode in my head. I didn’t take the time to sit down at the piano and put notes to paper, and today, I hardly remember the words. It could have been a beautiful hymn, or at least a pretty song, but it will not happen because I delayed.

Earlier this year, I had a couple of strong impressions of what to write in my “Babbling Brooksby” article, but I kept putting off writing, and the insights are gone.

C.S. Lewis said, “The more often a man feels without acting, the less often he will ever be able to act, and, in the long run, the less he will ever be able to feel.” The Lord gave me some really good pieces of inspiration, but I didn’t do the required work and now I don’t feel those inspirations anymore.

I could go on and on about opportunities squandered, but that would be a real downer for you to read. Suffice it to say that I want my children and their spouses and children to be wiser than I have been. When you feel the inspiration that is the time to act. Don’t delay or you may be writing an “Opportunities Lost” column of your own someday.

"Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days...What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it."
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“What you do is of little significance; but it is very important that you do it.”
– Mohandas K. “Mahatma” Gandhi

Love to all.

Saturday, February 23, 2008

My Daddy-Daughter Date with Melissa

Yesterday, Feb 22, Melissa and I drove to Flagstaff to go to a Ladysmith Black Mambazo concert. You will remember them from Paul Simon's "Graceland" CD. It was snowing pretty hard when we left Lakeside at 3:45, and we wondered if it would be a safe trip. But by the time we got outside of Show Low, the snow had stopped, and we had clear roads all the way to Flagstaff. But it was snowing in Flagstaff, and as we ate dinner (coconut shrimp at Red Lobster - Yum!) we watched the snow continue to fall. We drove to the concert at Prochnow auditorium and listened to two hours of the most amazing harmonies! What really amazed me was that the lead of the group, the guy who always stands out in front, Mr. Shamalala, started this group 47 years ago. He's in the red shirt in the picture, and doesn't look a day over 50, but he is probably closer to 70. He writes all the songs, and four of his sons are in the group. Anyway, the music was fantastic, and it was amazing to see all nine of these men kicking higher than their heads as they sing.

We walked the two blocks back to the car in deeper snow than we came in. When we got back on the freeway, we found the roads really slick and all the traffic moving much too fast, but we stuck with it, and only came close to hitting one semi. By the time we were 10 miles east of Flagstaff, the roads were clear again, and the driving conditions were fine until we got between Taylor and Show Low, when the blinding snow and slick roads made it almost impossible to get home. We pulled in the driveway at 1:00 am, glad to be home. What a great night we had. Thanks to Melissa and Brad for a memorable Christmas gift (it was also Melissa's birthday present from Brad).

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Words and Phrases I am, like, so tired of hearing!

Sorry for this posting, but the curmudgeon in me just won't be quieted. The following are words and phrases I am extremely tired of hearing.

1. We need to think out of the box. If people really want to get out of the box, they should learn a new metaphor.

2. We need to rethink our entire paradigm. Thank Stephen Covey for this one. Most people who use this phrase couldn't even give a cohesive definition of the word paradigm.

3. People who don't know the difference between "Your" and "You're" I mean, how hard is it to remember? Likewise, those who can't tell which "There" to use. Don't good grammar matter no more?

4. Sherbert… this one has bothered me for a long time, but now this adulterated spelling of "sherbet" is even in the dictionary! Thanks, Cynthia, for reminding me.

5. Any time I hear an ad that says, "Savings up to 50-, 60-, even 70% and more!" Emily reminded us of this one.

6. Confusing "less" and "fewer." Hearing things like, "50% less calories than the other brand" makes me homocidal! Here is the rule of thumb: Less is used to speak of things you measure; fewer refers to things you count. Clear enough? Let's have less confusion, and we'll make fewer mistakes.

7. Valley Girl speak. This includes the interminable use of "like" and phrases meant to substitute for the word 'said' such as , "I'm all," "We're like," and "He goes." Included in this category are people who end their declarative sentences by raising their intonation at the end so that everything sounds like a question. What Ev!

8. Overuse of the word 'so' as in, "I am SO not hungry right now!" "You are SO not going to the movies!" etc. This relates to the overuse of 'very,' which most editors will tell you is an unnecessary word. Mark Twain once said that every time you feel like writing 'very' you should substitute the word 'damn.' He said that if you go back later and remove all the 'damns' your writing will be just as good and clearer to read.

9. Irregardless. Oooooh! This one has bugged me since 1st grade, when I first discovered that I was a nerd in the making. I mean, really - caring about the proper use of language in 1st grade? There ain't no such word as irregardless.

10. I could care less. What you mean is, you couldn't care less. Saying you could care less means that you do, indeed, care, which is the opposite of what you are trying to communicate.

I would love to get feedback on this one from, like, you know, the people who read this blog (if they exist). I will include their comments as they come in.

Sunday, February 10, 2008

What God May Ask You

God won't ask what you're highest salary was, but He'll ask if you compromised your character to obtain it.

God won't ask how much overtime you worked, but He'll ask if your overtime work was for yourself or for your family.

God won't ask how many promotions you received, but He'll ask how you promoted others.

God won't ask what your job title was, but He'll ask if you performed your job to the best of your ability.

God won't ask what kind of car you drove, but He'll ask how many people you drove who didn't have transportation.

God won't ask the square footage of your house, but He'll ask how many people you welcomed into your home.

God won't ask about the clothes you had in your closet, but He'll ask how many you helped to clothe.

God won't ask about your social status; but He'll ask what kind of class you displayed.

God won't ask how many material possessions you acquired, but He'll ask if they dictated your life.

God won't ask what you did to help yourself, but He'll ask what you did to help others.

God won't ask how many friends you had, but He'll ask how many people to whom you were a friend.

God won't ask what you did to protect your rights, but He'll ask what you did to protect the rights of others.

God won't ask in what neighborhood you lived, but He'll ask how you treated your neighbors.

God won't ask about the color of your skin, but He'll ask about the content of your character.

God won't ask how many times your deeds matched your words, but He'll how many times they didn't.

God won't ask why it took you so long to seek Salvation, but He'll lovingly take you to your mansion in heaven, and not to the gates of Hell.